My point is that you don't really know who does and doesn't have a "personal gripe", so it's a bit silly to say that "[m]ost people who have a negative opinion or who criticize rm for banning people were neither involved nor present way back when to know the whens and why of the whole story."

If we're going purely on anecdata, which we seem to be doing, I'd say the exact opposite: most people--in fact, all of the people I know personally--who have a negative opinion formed that negative opinion from direct personal interaction with her.

Obviously, neither your statement nor mine is particularly well substantiated in any way that the other person can verify. You see why this is a problem?

Meanwhile, in my opinion the idea that a "hate bandwagon" exists merely serves to shore up what I perceive as her massive persecution complex.